I will try my best to be just and true and to make this as honest as possible.
When I started hearing about feminism, I knew it to be an agitation which was about balance and equality. Where every sex was treated as human and one sex wasn't treated like it was superior to another.
Honestly, when factions start to creep into any idea, it becomes disunited and the common goal is often hidden in warped agendas.
If we're not careful, sometimes in a bid to radically eliminate something, we only create the same thing or something worse in another form.
There was a time in the South Southern part of Nigeria when cultism is universities was rampant. People were being killed like flies. The student bodies of those universities decided to come up with a radical solution. To produce a group as radical as the cult factions, only in this case, they were meant to fight cultism.
All seemed well for a while, after a while the anti cult group actually became the terrors themselves. Students were no longer free, they started doing the same things the students wanted to eradicate. Extortion, molestation and name it. Why I shared this story is quite simple, we have to have a decisive plan of action. We shouldn't just play fire for fire, sometimes we have to be sure we're not creating a worse monster.
Let's get started
I grew up in a place where women's rights are greatly hindered. We have never had a female governor and some other things. But, in terms of employment, the women stand a higher chance than men.
Life is all about balance, any man who is threatened by the rise of a woman who is putting in hours of work and is deserving, is a coward. I don't support a host of things, they include; cheating, assault, rape, partiality and so much more. I believe women were created to complement men and not just only do the things we can, but to also do the things we cannot do.
My mum taught me the value of respecting women. But I want to say this proverb, a woman doesn't have to drag the crown on a man's head to prove she's equal or superior, she has her own beautiful crown which makes her unique. One thing women do perfectly well that men cannot do is that women can multitask effectively.
You see, biology differentiates our anatomy and physiology which creates strengths and weaknesses in us. Be proud of what makes you different.
It hurts me when I see people claiming to fight a "system" when they need not be subject to the laws of those system in the first place.
We have crucial issues being ignored by feminists like child marriages, access to basic human rights but sadly, it seems more of a fixation on bringing other genders down. More like a war of genders. Permit my harsh narrative there, but it was how best I could express it.
I miss when life was more simple, when a child from the age of 0-5 just wanted to play with both genders (male and female) without stress. When they get to ages 6-12, they just find the opposite sex annoying and from 13 and above, attraction of same sex and opposite sex starts kicking in.
While I understand that there are jerks out there giving the men a bad name, we have to understand two things;
- Let's not blow things out of proportion.
- Not all men are bad.
Men were groomed never to complain, which is why even when they're hurt or things aren't what they seem, they opt for silence.
The consequence of such is that many have gone to jail for crimes they didn't commit. Naturally, society favors women on sensitive issues which is why some women exploit the true feminist movement as a tool for personal gain. I read of a case where a guy was convicted for rape and spent years only for them to discover the lady who accused him had lied. I know someone who told a popular black figure she would scream rape if he doesn't sleep with her. Funny part was that she somehow went to his hotel room under the guise of being a fan.
That is not the first of such stories. The thing is, because of the way society is currently being reshaped, facts are hardly verified in instances like that. This is not to say predators don't exist, but they're existent in all genders. Someone said what about men who shout women down during meetings, unfair wage gap etc.
That question was honestly answered as follows; we can take a look at the kind jobs women prefer to engage in vs the total number of jobs available. Majority of women don't like coal mining as a profession, civil construction, the list goes on. Look at it this way, if a company pays women less, why are more women not even employed? Afterall it saves them money. It is because while such happens, I don't think I have experienced such.
While some fight for the true freedom of other women, we must deny that the activities of some are questionable. I believe the established feminist activists could come together and build legacies (companies, establishments etc) which truly empower women instead of looking for ones created by men to somewhat validate their claims by employing them.
Also, it would be unfair to say labor laws do not favor them when they get maternity leave to nurse a new child and the fathers get nothing. A man is conditioned to give all he has in the name of family. I also think the identities of men, not the woman beating, savage machochistic tendencies, should be allowed to exist and the identities of women should too.
I won't deny the struggles women have passed through to get to this level today, the only thing I worry is the attack of the identity of man, including the innocent ones. The fear is while fighting the "patriarchy" we need to be careful as not to create a "matriarchy" similar or worse than what is being fought.
Let us see people as people.
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