"Never having failed is not a sign of strength but one of playing carefully within a confined space designed for quitters and failures."
Why and how one fails doesn't completely define them but how well they dealt with their situation.
When you see challenges as killer moments, you will learn to carry them like a load and then it burdens you for as long as you live. But, when you choose to make your lemonades from the lemons, you will have platforms to form a ladder to the top.
Step on your challenges and you will get to the top of your game.