One of the most difficult things in life is to recognize narcissists, or anyone who exhibits traits of narcissistic personality disorder. We have all been around people who seem to genuinely care about you and love you, even if they aren't really like you have little in common with them. However, there are also plenty of narcissists out there who like nothing more than to manipulate you, use your weaknesses against you, and waste your time.
There are many possible reasons for why a person like this could be your friend. It could be that he is a new neighbor you recently met on the subway. He seems like a great guy and you hang out with him often. He might also be your son's coach or teacher.
Narcissists will do almost anything they can to win over their victims. They will try to befriend you, try to get you to join them in activities, and they will use your weaknesses against you in order to make themselves look good. How can you tell if a person you know is a narcissist? You have to be able to spot the warning signs.
Watch out for grandiose ideas - If a conversation turns to expensive watches and trips to fancy restaurants, this could be a sign that he is thinking of getting you in his life. He is trying to attract you to his lifestyle and image. Watch out for this. Also watch out for a sudden increase in your allowance and expenses.
Watch out for sudden changes in behavior - Another sign of narcissists is when they suddenly start acting out of character and adopting someone else's personality traits. If you think your ex is becoming distant or he says he's going out with his friends a lot, that could be a sign that he has started to develop a new personality. Narcissists tend to develop a new image for every role they play.
Observe their grooming habits - A lot of narcissists are known for their carefully groomed appearance. They like to make sure their appearance matches who they are and want everyone to notice them. If someone you know acts differently towards their grooming habits or has a new look, that could be a sign that they are trying to look like someone else.
Watch out for suspicious circumstances - You may notice some strange behavior from your partner when you first meet them. Do not just accept this as an occasional thing because it could mean your partner is having an affair. Watch out for your partners' sudden increase in unexplained expenses or sudden cancellations of any plans you've made together. If someone you know acts like they have nothing to do and they never want to see you anymore, that could be a sign of a narcissist. Watch out for suspicious behavior like your partner avoids physical contact with you and suddenly starts being intimate with someone they're just met.
Watch out for suspicious circumstances. There are many common ways that narcissists manifest themselves. Some of these ways include grandiose ideas about themselves, repeatedly blaming others for their problems and using dishonest tactics to gain control. If you see someone in these behaviors, you should take the above steps to determine if it is possible that they are one of your own.
Watch out for inflated self-esteem. A person with high self-esteem likes to think that they are better than other people. They often brag about their accomplishments to make themselves feel better about themselves. Unfortunately, if you start to observe such behaviors from your partner, you should take the risk of confronting them. Confronting them will give you a chance to make them realize how inferior they are compared to you.
Watch out for a change in the routine. If your partner suddenly seems more willing to spend time with friends and family than before, that could be a sign that they are beginning to develop feelings of insecurity. Of course, you shouldn't jump to conclusions here and assume that they are already having an affair. You should also watch out for changes in their schedule - If your partner suddenly claims to be busy most of the time and then suddenly starts hanging out more with people they know, that could be another sign that they are beginning to feel uncomfortable around you.
Watch out for grand gestures. If you notice that your partner is always asking you to do things for them or make them happy, that could be a sign that they have developed feelings of entitlement. It's not uncommon for narcissists to have a grandiose sense of their own importance. If you notice them asking you to do stuff for them in a way that is out of line with what you would normally do, that could be a sign that they have become involved with someone who is more important.