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If I was already questioning trusting you putting this on the blockchain would finish me off. I recommend editing this out and seeing the counselor before you talk to her at all.


You think I should delete the post? I’m losing my mind

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stay away from social media, it is a vortex in nature


Yes, I think you should sort out, what you did, why you did it, and come up with a plan to address that.

Work with the counselor. It's none of my business, but if it were... I wouldn't want it on the blockchain.

First of all, it feels bad to upvote this article. I definitely think you deserve to be rewarded for such an open-hearted article, but it feels like an upvote would be as liking this, which I don't. It's terrible and I'm truly sorry for both of you.

Secondly, we have a saying in Sweden:

You don't miss the cow until the stall is empty.

And here's the thing, Lyndsay is the love of your life and you fucked up. It doesn't really matter how much or in what way. You fucked up and you didn't realize it until it was too late. Even if you realized it previously, when something bad happened and she forgave you, you couldn't take it in.

I bet she feels like you've been taking her for granted, which is probably one of the worst feelings one can feel in a relationship... However, I can relate to you, in case you say that you never did. It's more to it than that...

I don't know you or Lyndsay in real life, and I've never really spoken to either of you, but judging from the things you've written in this article, it's clear that you suffer from mental illness. In one way or another.

That's probably what's causing this entire mess for you. That's the underlying factor. I'm sorry for giving you some sort of diagnosis here, especially if it's not accurate, but I've experienced similar things, even though it was in other type of scenarios.

It seems to me that you're incapable of reflecting beforehand and that's why others might feel like you're taking her for granted.

Also, and I don't mean to blame you or anything, but to publicly write something like this is probably not the best idea, even though I can totally understand why you're doing it.

You're both still living together even if the situation is different than before, and by doing something like this, it's basically like you're chasing her wherever she goes, and that's something you should try to avoid.

Again, I don't know you or her, so I obviously don't know how any of you react, but I'm sort of speaking from personal experience. She needs her own personal space right now, and so do you.

I can't imagine how you feel, as it's kids involved too, but I can relate to many of the things you've written here. You love her with all of your heart, you fucked up and she wants out.

It might sound harsh, but it's basically the reality. The ball is on her side of the court now... You should just try to give her some breathing room, no matter how tough it is.

I won't be cheesy and say that everything happens for a reason or something like that, and I wouldn't go as far to blame you for all of this either. It might be your fault, or due to your "stupidity", but to me, it sounds like you're having some issues, and those are what's causing these problems.

You're trying to be a great father and the best husband in the world, and I personally think that you're stressing out over this. Each time you do something and fail, anxiety and stress builds up tremendously and you act impulsively. This is probably something that causes you issues in life.

Simply put, I think you're trying too much. You're trying too hard to be the best person in the world, so you fail because you can't meet your own expectations. Honestly speaking, I don't think Lyndsay expects a new Ferarri or a mansion to live in... She loves you for who you are, and not for the person she wants you to be.

She always loved you for you... Don't set those high expectations on yourself. It's one of the worst things you can do. You are the best father and the best husband as long as you are who you where when you met.

Sorry for any spelling or grammar mistakes, I hope you're able to understand what I've been trying to say.

I hope you'll be okay.

Thank you so much for responding. I have edited the post as well. I think you’re totally right and I’m trying and reaching way to far and hard. She does need space and I need to respect that. I need to stay away from her bubble and let her do her own thing.

I need to find some ways to relax and stop these impulsive actions like this post. I thank you for your help.

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maybe try something physical again. do you not remember how you use to feel after a hockey game..or a run. how good that felt? Take the boys on a hike on the trails. Maybe, clean up your yard and finish your painting. Lots of ideas out there. Just get physical somehow.

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