Motivational Interviewing - How to Motivate Yourself to Do More and Be More

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I was listening to the Tim Ferriss Podcast this Monday morning and he was interviewing Daniel Pink. About halfway through the episode, Tim asked Daniel to describe Motivational Interviewing.

Daniel said that Motivational Interviewing is a therapeutic technique that he learned from a friend at the Yale School of Medicine. The technique is very simple and Daniel thinks that it can be applied to nearly anything that someone can be struggling with, whether it be motivation for going to the gym or trying to get a kid motivated for an algebra test.

The technique doesn’t have to be applied by an external source and Tim notes that it can be great for those that journal their thoughts and experiences. I agree with Tim - this is a great addition to anyone’s daily notes and journaling and it’s a quick, simple and effective way to root out one’s desires and motivations for accomplishing any task.

The Algebra Example

So the Algebra example basically goes like this:

Jack’s not doing well in Algebra and his parents and teachers don’t know how to get him to sit down and study for his upcoming exam. They’ve tried to bribe him and they’ve tried to force him to study but nothing works.

They decide to give him a “Motivational Interview.” So they sit down with Jack and ask him: "on a scale of 1-10, how motivated are you to do well on this upcoming Algebra exam?” Jack replies, “3 out of 10”.

The following question is the key to this technique, Jack’s parents ask him, “why are you a 3 out of 10 and not a 2 out of 10?” Notice that Jack’s parents have turned the tables on what one might expect - you’d normally anticipate a demanding conversation where Jack’s parents berate him with questions about why he’s not a 9 out of 10 or a 10 out of 10 as far as motivation goes - school is important to them and is the only thing that should matter in Jack’s life, right?

But Jack’s parents know better, they know the motivational interviewing technique and they apply this kind of “reverse psychology” to Jack and ask him why he doesn’t have even less motivation to do well on the Algebra exam. By doing this, Jack now has to think of reasons why he’s motivated enough to be a 3 and why he even cares at all about the Algebra exam.

Jack could have all kinds of answers for why he’s a 3 and not a 2:

  • “I want to pass the class so I can graduate later on”
  • “If I do poorly on this test, I’ll probably do poorly on the following tests”
  • etc etc etc.

Jack has just listed all of the reasons why he should be motivated to do well on the test and he has now brought those motivations to the forefront of his mind.

The Gym Example

The gym example is really applicable to a lot of people and I actually asked myself this same series of questions to figure out how motivated I am to work out and why I am motivated to do so. I also recommend writing this down, writing things down really solidifies your responses and allows you a better perspective into your own line of thinking.

Just ask yourself, “On a scale of 1-10, how motivated am I to go to the gym today?”

You write, “I’m a 4 out of 10”. Then ask yourself, “Why aren’t I a 3 out of 10?”

Again you write:

  • “I’m not a 3 out of 10 because I want to lose weight and look better before the summer is here.”
  • “I’m not a 3 out of 10 because I want to live a healthy lifestyle and live longer and happier.”
  • “I’m not a 3 out of 10 because a part of me actually enjoys working out.”
  • “I’m not a 3 out of 10 because after I work out, I always feel 10x better than when I started.”
  • etc etc etc.

I urge you to try the technique yourself. You can either share your responses in the comments below, or keep them to yourself if you’d rather not share your responses. You can just run through the technique in your head, but I recommend writing it down - writing things down makes everything clearer and more solid. Also, if you ever confront the same issue, you can go back to the responses you gave previously and re-learn your motivations for doing something!! Happy Monday!


Here's the Question of The Day, don't forget to post your answers in the comments!

Did you try the Motivational Interviewing technique on a task that's pestering you in life right now? Do you find yourself with a clearer motivational picture of why you should do whatever it is that you're trying to get motivation for?

Thanks for reading! Don't forget to leave your thoughts below and I look forward to seeing you in the comments!

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don't motivate yourself , that doesn't work, ask yourself what you gonna do today if you know you gonna die tomorrow?

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True, but without motivation you will fast lose the goal. For example you will say i will run 200 kilometres, but you are fat. A guy will start running, after 5 kilometres he will say ohh shit why I'm doing it? I will not die tommorow and will say I don't care, i quit. A guy who will run whit motivated people, after 5 kilometres will say guys sorry, but I will quit and other people will say cmon you can do it. After 200 kilometres you will be really happy and you will know that you finnaly moved the mountains. Ofcourse you can argument about my example, but we all understand that being ready mentaly and being motivated we can go to the moon!

Nice ..
I liked this way .. great advice from you
Thanks for sharing

Mehn I love this. While I was reading and got to the point where they asked Jack why he is 3 out of 10 and not 2 out of 10 I was like wow...The question got me. Jack could have easily said 0 out of 10 but the truth is, there is always something inside of us that doesn't want to fail of be left behind. The problem is that we refuse to feed that and let our lazy ass lead us.

This motivational interviewing is really the bomb and I will be using it on not just myself, but on others too...Nice piece here.

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Yes! I was the same way when I was listening to the podcast, the question really got me fired up. It's seems so obvious and so fundamental, but it really is an amazingly simple way of "feeding" the inner motivation that we all have inside of us. Most people tend to the fire of laziness by choosing the easy way out and continuously thinking of the reasons why they don't want to do something rather than stoking the fire that tells us why we actually want to do something and want to reap the benefits from doing so!

I hope you do and please let me know how it goes for you, if you want to share your responses here, I would also love to see your thinking process as you answer the questions!

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I was recently reading an article about how important it is to "design the default" and combined with this article, I feel like I have seriously upgraded my motivation game. If I practice being mindful of the reasons I do want to do something, it will become easier to work in that manner. Our brains are fantastic in that they are able to send us on crazy adventures when we aren't actively engaging it, but we can really unlock a ton of potential by mindful willpower. Neural connections for a specific skill can get stronger and more diverse when we work at it often, so we can build quite a motivation machine with the right mental exercises. Thank you so much for sharing this tool, @khaleelkazi!

And @sistem, you and I had the exact same reaction, that question caught me off guard and that's how I know how much I needed to read this today.

Apologies to answer with a question but what if they went with 1 out of 10 or 0 out of 10. The first step is to get over it and break the problem into parts. Doing them piece by piece will make it less overwhelming. Often times I do not do something is because it seems too long or difficult to do. By focusing and finishing just a little I progress further down the road. Although I take longer than usual to get something done. Maybe I should use this motivational interviewing to speed up the process. lol. Thanks.

Eureka! I think you may be on to something. I have little girls who would rather fight with me than get motivated to do the things they should be doing. I am DEFINITELY going to try this when they are struggling with completing homework, headed out to an activity, or study for that test.

I only fear they will say 0 out of 10 and wonder how I will handle that. Why not negative 1?

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I also had this light bulb reaction to this technique! Please let me know how it works out for you, I'd love to hear your results with it!

Yeah I could see how that would throw a wrench in it. I don't think they could really say 0 unless they weren't being forthcoming with you and with themselves. Nobody cares 0 about anything going on their life. Maybe the question can somehow be phrased in a way that doesn't allow 0 to be an option. I'll think on it!

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Lol, now that would be a problem, well incase they say that please let us know how the -1 technique works out

Ok this is the best thing I have read all day! What a GREAT idea! I will be trying this on all of my clients! :)

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Thanks @annemariemay! I appreciate your kind words! Please let me know how it works for you and your clients, I'd love to hear about it!

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But Jack's parents know best, know the motivational interviewing technique and apply this kind of "reverse psychology" to Jack and ask him why he doesn't have even less motivation to do well on the Algebra test.

this technique is uncommon, we usually demand more than the normal standards... now, when applying this technique you tend to confuse the person a little? Maybe Jack expected one thing and got another? This technique seems interesting, I think I will investigate it a little more and maybe apply it to myself to encourage me to go to the gym.
Excuse my English use translator

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Yes it is really uncommon to do this technique. I think it can catch people off guard! Please let me know how it works for you in motivating yourself to hit the gym, would love to hear about that! And you're all good with the English translator, you left some great thoughts here!

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I'm sure I'll give you the details, just give me a little time, thank you for your kind comment, happy evening.

Hi @khaleelkazi, thanks for this post. As my fiancé and I approach the day when we decide to have kids within the next few years, we're often discussing different scenarios of disciplining and parenting styles that we plan on implementing. I find this very applicable in sales as well. I really liked the motivational interviewing technique and approach - it helps the person flip their perspective and concentration from all the negative reasons they can't/won't, and they start to focus on why they can/will, and why it's not so bad after all.

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Hey @ericphan! Thanks for reading and leaving your thoughts and how you plan on using the approach! I'd love to hear how it works out for you in both parenting and sales! Have you tried using the technique on anything yet?

This is a pretty cool idea, it helps point out the positive in any situation! I will try this out in a number of different ways and see how it applies for me.

I guess my big one is work, which I'm maybe at a 4, because I need to pay the bills pretty much haha

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Thanks, it really does! It does an amazing job of extracting the fundamental motivations that you have for doing any activity!

Why aren't you a 3 for working? 😊

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Because my job is pretty good on the surface level, great benefits, pay, standing desk, feeds me and my family and lets e pay for my house, and the people I work with are solid.

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Awesome, I see you found some great motivations for work and why it's important in your life! Have you noticed your attitude towards your job change at all?

I read this post yesterday but decided not to make a comment because I wanted to try it out. Well, I just did. I have been struggling to prove a formula. I gave myself 3 hours to prove it. Then I asked myself why not 4 hours or 6 hrs or one day? I answered the questions myself by saying because I need to move on to other things which require this result. Failure in finishing early will result in failure in achieving my goal. So I sat back and faced it head long. Guess what? I finished in an hour and about 20 minutes.
Thanks for the tip.
It works!

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That’s fantastic, I’m glad you tried it out! So you found the motivation for why you want to finish the formula faster and then realized that you could leverage that motivation to accomplish the task?

Great example, I hope more people take after your initiative @jeffiyaro! Thanks for sharing and keep up the good work!

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The pleasure is mine.

Try that out on RK! Nice post

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I will, you should try it as well! Thanks for reading @cookit!

Found it truly helpful thanks for sharing. Will be writing the technique from henceforth.

in short,​ things to keep:

  1. Trying to motivate yourself
  2. going to change (always)
  3. Living in the present
  4. Being to be different
  5. Thinking you're good
  6. Thinking of your goals

This is such a great idea, most definitely not what I thought you were going to say when I saw the topic at the beginning, LOL! This could be helpful to motivate myself to exercise - I already know my main motivation is to lose the weight I gained while I was pregnant (I just had my baby 5 months ago) and I want to be healthy and trim. Who doesn't want to look and feel better? It's always a different story when it comes to actually putting the plan into action, so thanks for sharing this, much appreciated!

Wow once again u have shared a best guide line technices post.
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Verry nice post thumbs up and a resteem from my side for hard work and dedication best of luck

Oke this the best thing l have read all day.

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Thanks! What did you use the technique on? Did you try it out?

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I tried it out, this was a great way to root out those true desires!

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Wow it's cool to hear that you tried it out.. what did you do it on?

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I used it on health and nutrition, did you try it?

Nice, what an interesting point for looking on things. I recently read a book called " How to win friends and influence people ". It has a similar point on looking on things, I was amazed. A recommendation to read for everyone.

Interesting. We can always do more when we are truly motivated. I will try this technique often. I am new here and this is the first post I will read on steemit. It's good to start with motivation

Very nice post. It gave us too much motivation which is just like a glucose in our body. Upload regularly this types of post.

I think motivation is everything. To be motivated you need to look what are your friends, who dimotivates you and what is your goal wich you want to successed. Before 2-3 years I've been just a normal guy who wanted to successed, but don't wanted to make the hard work. All my friends been my demotivators and when i wanted to do something, they say don't do it. I was lissening to them. One day i found a guy and he invited me to on a ride to the forest whit bikes. I accepted, because he was pretty famous youtuber. After few months we became really good friends and not, because he was famous. We understood that we are really same and we like to make crazy challenges. Social, phisical and etc. For example this Thursday we are going to a bike TRIP of 200 kilometres. I'm not really into sports, but i know we will successed, because we are really motivated and mentaly ready. I think that you can do everything whit a ton of motivation and ready whit your own head. I hope that every one will find them goal and whit a ton of motvation will successed.

Wow, having a better picture to self motivation instead of asking questions about why, how, when, where... One needs to establish the level of interest(motivation) and ask, why it's not lesser... I will try it, thanks for shaing

Wow, this definitely is motivating, i got thrown off when Jack's parents asked him a different question to what i was expecting, the truth is the most effective motivation is self motivation and that's exactly what his parents made him do by making him think about why he wasn't less than a 3. Thank u for this post

I love this post. Thanks for sharing!

Excellent publication my friend. It is true that it is difficult for us to detach ourselves from what makes us ill and we want to suffer with it day by day. With your publication you give us tools to face this situation and continue our journey. Greetings from Venezuela

Great article thanks

helpfull post

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Thanks, what did you find most helpful about the post? Did you think about the QOTD?

What a great idea! I never thought of that! I'm gonna try that from now on to support my friends :) Thanks for sharing and keep looking for the positive!

This couldn't come at a better time. My son is struggling in math and I am going to try this technique.

The post was interesting and helpful. I think I want to try Interview Motivation Technique and hopefully as I expected. thank you for sharing, please help to support me.

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Thanks! I hope you do, would love to hear about the results you get from it! What do you plan to try it on?

Super inspiring and much needed now days! Yes to be present, connected, positive and turn on that will power! Much love and gratitude brother! @khaleelkazi

Very interesting and helpful, thank you very much for sharing information. I want and want to try his Interview Motivation technique.

Nice post @khaleelkazi, don't forget to follow and upvote my blog, or my post on steemit...

I love the algebra example 👍🏽

Great post! you motivate me!

Interesting ! This is awesome.

Hola!!

Que interesante esta técnica, muy sencilla pero muy acertada. Me la apliqué y me ratificó que gracias a nuestros valores logramos determinar lo que realmente es importante para nuestro existir y en ellos se encuentran las verdaderas razones que nos inspiran a seguir o no en la consecución de nuestros proyectos personales o profesionales.
Voy a emplearla como recurso en mi próximo taller motivacional.

who can teche me how to up vote?pictures will be good,thanks alot

I love this post.. This is very nice post.

Motivation is fundamental, I always love reading this type of message, to move forward in the goals I set for myself ... thank you friend

This is really a great idea. I have done number of motivational and leadership training earlier but not got such brilliant idea. I will apply this also encourage others to follow this technique.

That is awesome! I did not know about Motivational Interviewing. I write about positive thinking on many sites but wasn't aware of this technique. It is so simple to make our own mind the friend of the thing we want it to do. Awesome!!

i dont understand in “why are you a 3 out of 10 and not a 2 out of 10?”

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Very well written..I personally gets motivated by watching/hearing motivational speakers but it doesnt lasts longer, 1 week 2 week and then i am gone. the same stupid,depressed,inferiorty complex guy who continues to waste time and thinks useless abut him.

awesome. Thank for sharing.

wooow! Nice piece Khaleel. This will really change my life! Thanks

Lol..... Interesting approach. Never heard of this before now. More people need to see this. Just resteemed. Gonna bookmark it :)

seriously, i am motivated enough from this article. i am impressed.

Wow how interesting!
Keep up the good work!

Jesus i love this i was so curious to find out why they asked 2 out of 10 but this reasoning is good btw am never motivated to go to work but this technique will help me a lot because i need the money

Wonderful!
Motivation is a powerful key that unfolds many potentials.

It's wonderful to do more every day. To aspire to be a better you everyday.

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Yes! That's what I try to do every single day - improve from the previous day! Momentum and consistency are the keys!

Good Post! Thank you!

wow! such great words and post, i'll apply this tips on my daily basis goo luck guys!

Terrific stuff. Thanks for your contribution.

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Thanks for reading, did you think about the question of the day?

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The question of the day is great! I feel a lot more motivated to reach my goal now that I have the true focuses in mind

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I am glad to hear that gallerani!!

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Of course!

Did you look at my stuff? I'm new; I've posted 2 substantial posts (1 long one) and a bunch of commentary. I'd be glad to hear what you think about it... Mike

@khaleelkazi this is interesting. Maybe if I do this I find myself sleepless

Really good post! I love it. congratulations.

This is very interesting, thank you for sharing.

It is good to start with motivation. It's a very good post, I congratulate you. Motivation plays a very important role in life and in all entrepreneurship

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Absolutely! Motivation, especially internal motivation is key to being happy and feeling fulfilled in life!

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Yes, internal is so much more fulfilling then external!

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100%, I think working on your internal desires is way more beneficial than working for external rewards set by others!

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Exactly. What is in our complete control is the most important thing to focus on! Waiting for external gratification is never good!

very nice friends.

Hi there, I have upvoted you. I like your post. Can you please give me an idea on how about I can be successful in Steemit.

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Thanks for reading, what did you like most about the post?

My advice for success on steemit is to post consistently and regularly, be positive, comment as much as possible and leave thoughtful comments that show that you not only read the post, but took something away from it, etc etc etc. also invest in your Steem power, if you have the means. The more time you invest, the more successful you will become. The more money you invest will multiply that success even more. Hope that helps!

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That's great advice. I agree with all aspects! You draw a great point about the time/money investment part.. They are separate metrics and can be leveraged individually to grow!

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That is a fantastic point... It's great to be able to leverage 2 different "sources" of growth!

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I agree! Thanks for your thoughts! Being able to work on 2 things at the same time is definitely better!

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Yes working on 2 things at the same time can definitely give some advantageous leverage!

Well written post

great post. this is the great post in all day long. thank you so much for that post. really impressive

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Thanks for reading! I’m glad you think the post is great, what did you like specifically?

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Definitely how actionable the post is. I think it's a great way for people to take practical action in their lives.

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Yes, you mentioned that!! practicality and action are key!

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Yes they are!

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i liked most your title seriously. and in this whole post motivation is awesome because there are so many people who can work properly if they can follow some motivation speech because they are good,they just need one touch to start you know.

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you can check my profile i also posted in the topics of motivation about this situation.

Jaja muy bueno, me identifico con lo del gimnasio mi caso es mas extremo porque ni siquiera me he inscrito y somos en ocasiones nosotros mismos los que nos saboteamos lo que queremos.

Good technique for us that does not have where to take out motivation to do things... Now I can see a new perspective of how motivate myself. Thanks! @khaleelkazi

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I’m glad that you got some perspective out of the post, what part resonated the most with you?

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My favorite is how actionable it is... It's not just advice, it's something you can actually put into practice, thanks for sharing it!

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I completely agree gallerani! Actionability of info is always a good thing!

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Absolutely!!

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The reverse psychology parte... It suggests that I have to change my way of thinking to get a new idea, a new perspective of the situation and move towards it.

This is a really good idea especially for people bored of typical motivational techniques. Thanks, you just made me feel better about my morning!

come on, I really need this !!

wahhhh. that god your post, thanks whit information.