I have had to do a lot of uncomfortable things in my life, mostly with work and a few with my own children. As you handle these uncomfortable situation you grow strong, well up to this day I always felt pretty strong, I always found a way to make it not so uncomfortable, today was just a bad day.
Well about 2 weeks ago my wife and I got some news that was kinda hard to handle. Our youngest son was born with a Heart Murmur. Well he is now 15 years old and the Heart Murmur has not closed itself up. He usually goes to the heart doctor once a year for a check up and we had just had a check up about 6 months ago. Well he plays soccer for his high school and they require him to have a physical, this is when it got bad. Once he had his physical the doctor said, I can not release him to play soccer, you will need to get the release from his Heart Doctor. No big deal right, I mean we new he had a Heart Murmur. So we scheduled the appointment and off we went. That morning once we got to the Heart Doctor, it was just a matter of a few minutes and they had him hooked up to a heart monitor.
The heart doctor said go to practice tomorrow and let's see How the reads look. So the next morning we take him back to the Doctor to see how the reads looked, That's when the Doctor said NO to soccer for now. Which was kinda confusing to my 15 year old. Come to find out the Doctor is part of the Alabama Heart Doctors association and they where meeting on Friday to discuss my son's situation. So untill then the doctor said no boxing, no weight lifting and no soccer. Well to a 15 year old, Friday couldn't get here fast enough.
Well Friday finally came, and for the first time in my life I had to lie to my 15 year old. See my wife left to go out of town on Thursday and would not be back in town untill Monday night and there was no way that I was gonna go at this by myself. So I told my son on Friday that the doctor called and said they had to change their meet time to Monday. All along I new what was going on and what the outcome was, I kept this secret from my wife as well, no need in ruining her trip.
So I was able to buy myself some time, I now had till Monday to figure Out How I was gonna break the news to my little boy.
Well my wife got back into town on Monday night, keep in mind I hadn't even told her yet. So I spent the rest of Monday night talking with her and trying to understand why this was happening to our youngest child and how in the world where we going to tell him.
Well I think we had a plan, we where gonna tell him Tuesday right after school, we had also told ourselves that we could not get emotional when we talked to him. Well let me tell you this, all that sounded good untill you have to look a 15 year old that is full of life and energy and tell him that the doctors have decided to do open Heart surgery. At this point my every bit of strength was replaced with emotions. I mean damn, how do you hold it together.
Well, I will have to tell you that Codey handle this news as good as he could, given the outcome. My boy looked at me and said dad three things will get me through this, You, Mom and God. at this point I felt a sense of comfort come over my mind and body.
I really had to think about this before I put it on the blockchain, and then I thought to myself that there is message here and that message would be, love your kids everyday, show them your strength and weaknesses and never go at things by yourself.
Now I am sure that my son is worried and confused and doesn't want to show weakness, but he has the right mindset to handle things I know this simply from his comment, that he said.
I will keep everyone posted on his progress. His surgery is schedule for the 1st week in April, this is his spring break and probably the best time to do this.