Have you ever wondered why, when you care about a girl a lot, she is not interested in you, and when it is the other way round and you don't give a shit about her, she clings to you like a donkey to a carrot?
Someone wise once said 'don't give a shit and it will be given to you' - and this is the answer.
When you don't give a shit, you come across as a confident, hard-to-get person (women don't like easy men), who is not impressed by her beauty. Most importantly, you are then relaxed, which automatically transfers to your body language. Women can easily read if you are stressed, insecure, or fuckng whatever. You are just standing straight and confident in a natural position, not thinking about what to do with your hands, or whether or not to cross your legs when you're sitting. In brief, you don't feel every limb of your body that sends the signal to your brain, reminding you of its existence. Everyone knows that feeling, not only when it comes to dealing with women, but also in important conversations on which you want to do well.
The way you sit, the way you move, your gestures or eye contact, the emanation of your inner self-confidence, cohesion, are the factors that make up your success.
When you are in the relaxed state while talking to her, you start to not give a shit about what she thinks of you, you talk very openly, and if she does not like it, she can go, you will not be apologizing for it. You are not here to make an impression on someone, you are being yourself. That's what makes them crazy. You start joking on the border of the socially accepted tact norms (if you have that sense of humour). You are honest with her (women love it, it drives them crazy), you try not to act better than it is in reality, you don't wonder if what you said is good, don't acquiesce when she says she likes opera or running half-naked, smeared with chocolate, with the granny pants on her head – because it will be weird. You are not trying to look for what connects you and hang on to it. You do not put her view on a pedestal and try to spin around it like a satellite looking for things in common. When you turn into a dog, she will start feeling uncomfortable.
Women can instantly recognise when someone tries too hard while interacting, and trying so hard makes you not be yourself. You calculate too much, you have too many emotions inside you, yet your mind is empty, even though you are a fucking intelligent guy. In a word, you cruelly underestimate your value and come across as a boring guy, with whom interacting wasn't particularly different from many other men she had dated.
When you don't care about her opinion, you direct the conversation towards the subjects that interest you; if you're crazy for her buttocks, you think about her in bed; if you want to joke with her – and suddenly you jump through all these topics, although you barely know each other. How come it's so fast? It's because you are relaxed and it's not a big deal for you, but, just like someone said before, you are moving the boundaries. If you are relaxed, she feels good about it, too.
Anxiety, squeezed throat, emptiness in your head, don't accompany you when you don't give a shit. Showing her that you don't want to get her, you increase your value as a man in her eyes, especially if she is beautiful and her ego is tickled enough by the guys who wanted to fuck her. You unlock yourself and then you are completely yourself.
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