I Wish It Was A Dream: "10 PM Manila time (Nov 24, 2017), My Precious Loving Mum Lost Life". She Fought Hard. Fix Me!!! (This Is Not NSFW, It's Life And The Cheating It Brings.)

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One woman, Maria Wilma Ajayi Aranez suffered all her life and she kept suffering till the very end. I watched her suffer till the end. 

10 PM Manila time, my precious loving mum lost life. 

I watched the last 30 mins of her life as she suffered. They pumped her chest to resuscitate her for 30 minutes because she kept fighting. 

She wanted to live

The entire night to dawn on Thursday, there were 3 times, when she gasped for life itself; with doctors and nurses around her trying to stabilize her. I watched! 

Several times in these moments, she had opened her precious eyes and looked at me even in her livelessness, seeking my eyes for reassurance of help and i couldn't look back well enough. 

To continue saving her, she was moved to Intensive Care Unit, where they stabilized her, after which they started telling me to wait for hours, for my mum's demise. I was to decide whether, they should give her a shock-type resuscitation when her heart stops or let her go peacefully. 

I doubt i fought enough. There is so much cheating in life!

Even in her close-to-death hallucinations, she loved like crazy still. She prayed for us. She wanted her eyes, to be given to my dad, a special man, who fell under the weight of his hefty dreams, to dementia and glaucoma. 

As she died, all she did is love like crazy.

My dad doesn't know yet! Telling him can hurt is life. 

This year was when i had in mind to give my family a first whisper of good news, courtesy of me! In June, i ended up seeing my 3 sisters in Dubai after more than 4 years and all we drooled about, is of how we will have my mum go on a vacation to Dubai and Manila. 



We shopped for her while in Dubai. She was happy. She wore those clothes we bought her. She took pictures. She loved to see us; all her children together and she relished that, even moreso, than the vacation we planned for her.

I shed my tears here. I love her because she loved like crazy. She cared like crazy.
She didn't deserve this suffering, after all her years of suffering. 

I left her in November 2012, with hopes that my next physical whispers to her ears will be whispers of good news. 

In Sept 2017, she had her very first visit to the hospital, for she broke down really bad for the first time and she was seen to have leukemia. I wasn't with her. 

I did all levels of trauma away from her, here in Manila. It was unimaginable plus my mum had never fallen sick or visited a hospital except the times she bore us. Overall, i hurt away about my dad's case. It shocked me alot, when i heard of my mum's case.

Then a moment of respite came as she was then seen not to have any abnormal cells upon a second biopsy and sent home, without any medication. This is after she had done around two weeks of an almost unconscious state. 

Yes, after two weeks of not being able to talk or walk, she rose again.

During all this period, i was in disarray. I don't talk much or seek help much. I do push alot on my own.

I did trauma and loads of faith alone in Manila. The news from the doctors crushed me as they were didn't even the slightest positivity about my mum's chances of being restored to full life and they told us to hurry to see her, before a demise.. 

I kept on the faith and i kept pushing, the decision of whether to see her before she passed, to the last minute. On the day, that i was suppose to buy my ticket, i was told that my mum has picked up.

My sister hurried to see her from Dubai!


Yes my mum rose again and was discharged and even declared leukemia free, but only weeks later, she started to fall weak again and her blood count deteriorated really fast. 

One day around 2 or 3 weeks ago, she practically walked all the way to Manila on a 24 hour flight by herself, without food or energy. She was coming to see her only son.

She wasn't the mum i knew. My baby special mama has lost her shine to illness and she was no longer masking it well. She was ever positive that she would live. 

Hours after arrival, i was in the rains on the streets of Manila, looking for a hospital. I eventually got a hospital and admitted her and that began, my short time with my precious baby queen. Hospital after hospital till earlier today; Friday (Manila); her last day!

I feel like the hospitals played with her but i won't blame anything. I didn't fight enough either. I didn't take her to USA or something. 

I will continue this fight

I will continue this fight by loving like crazy. I will not turn cruel. I will love like crazy because even as she was losing life, she was loving like crazy. 

There is a ton, we will fix together, even by means of steem because the world can't go on like this, with so much undeserved cheating. 

I will keep this short!

I dedicate all my steemit journey and everything other thing i will create by means of steem e.g steemgigs interface, my "steemgigs" witness, untalented, steem-legacies, steemLab etc to my precious loving mama.

https://surpassinggoogle.com (another steem app) will fix many and i will dedicate the entire evolution of it, to my mum.

I started to run a full public RPC node "wss://steemd.steemgigs.org" to help the steem ecosystem, with an underlying reason being; to help me keep going, when i was doing trauma on my mum's bedside and i dedicate this as well to her. 

She wanted to be on steemit!

After her death a few hours ago, i was just broken and had to go home and tomorrow (later today), i will go back to the hospital to look at the bills and try to see how to settle it, so that i can remove my mama's special body from the holding room and into a morgue, where it will be planned the next steps for her funeral.

I held her lifeless body close. I loved it, i held it. She comforted me.


I have 3 sisters and i am the first. I passed the news to them. This isn't the news i wanted to bear. Thus, i will be bearer of good news towards as many as possible.

My dad is oblivious to all that is going on. I am not with him either and its going on 5 years. In his dementia and glaucoma state, the only voice who can tame his hurting heart, is my mama. He licks the plate, whenever he eats her cooking. Jehovah guide me on these decisions.

Even As I Hurt

I will restore my level of productivity on steemit as this journey of doing much good, is dedicated to my mama. 

These developing nations have to get better.

I love her so much but couldn't express enough. I will keep loving her by means of steemit.


If You Support Me, I Will Accept It This Point Because I Hurt; We Hurt!!!

I love you mumsy. After my bath tonight, i used your towel. I knew your precious natural aroma. It's all bliss; all special


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For humans and steemians, i am all in, for you all

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I woke up to this very heartbreaking news, we love her but God loves her more, i am sure she has gone to place of rest we where all praying for her while she was with us and we will still continue to pray for her so she can rest well in the bossom of the almighty.
My advice to us all

♡ A mother is a shooting star that goes through our life, only once. Love her, because when her light goes out, you'll miss her a lot, but you'll never see her again.

Please accept my condolences
No matter how we try to plan our lives life always have its own plans for us this is one cruel plan of life, we will all have to face.
@surpassinggoogle please remember that if your mum was here she would not bare to see you broken or devastated and she still watches you from above please remain strong and continue to fight.

Hi @surpassinggoogle, Please accept my heartiest condolences on this uncompensated loss. May her soul rest in eternal peace!

She was indeed a great lady who raised a son like you:

You're part of her and if you keep serving the world, it means that she is living and serving the world.

I would leave you in peace so that you could have your me time.

Lots of prayers,

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Thank you so much. Serving the world will now have extra valuable essence

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's especially sad because you are such a source of positivity in the world but I'm glad to see you plan to stay that way. Stay strong.

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I am grateful for this comment bro. Steemit has help. Keep supporting it cos its a beauty. i wish i can explain to you one day in person or in a video call everything involved in how much steemit is in terms of impact and fixing lives in developing nations. Steemit does wonders. Will have some steemians visit the burial. Still working on it. Will bury her on tuesday or wednesday. Thank you for everything. Will do more steemit things. The steemgigs interface working alpha will work in weeks and will have new meaning in terms of impact and steemit growth cos i will divert special enrgy to it from my mum who wanted to be on steemit. During the troubled times with my mum, i also started running a full rpc node 256 gb, as among other things, i valued it specially cos it helped as something look up too, when we were fighting for my mum's life. Stay awesome bro. Your comment here is what its about

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I know that you are strong enough to keep going in this wold of steemit that I loved it only cause of you ......in spite of your great loss I know u r owner of brave heart ...all my condolences to you dear Terry @surpassinggoogle

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I look forward to that call and hearing/telling your story

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BiG HUGH I hope and pray that you will have strength during this time of loss.

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very very sad post........and thank you com............thank you.....

This is so depressing and I wish I could be there with you to give you comfort. But know that her life was not lived for nothing because she had you and she made a difference in the world through you.

Life will not be the same without her from here on in but I really believe that God Jehovah has many great plans for you and your family with your mother's passing. In a way, the Lord gave her a way out of her suffering and pain in His own terms and we find comfort in this that the God we serve always sees to it that we are taken cared of.

I am not good at this... giving comfort to someone who just suffered a tragedy such as yours, but at such a time as this I know you need all the friends and the comfort they bring. I'm not big with words but in a simple way, I want to comfort you by the Lord's Words itself in John 14:1-3

"Let not your heart be troubled,
Ye believe in God and in Me.
In My Father's house are many mansions.
If it were not so, I would have told you.
I will and prepare a place for.
And if I go and prepare a place for you,
I will come again and receive you unto myself.
That where I am, there ye may be also."

There is life after our passing. There is hope in every tragedy. Because this old world will become new when our Lord and Saviour Jehovah comes back to take us to that place He prepared for us. And your beloved Mom will be there. She will be as healthy as a new born baby and all of us, with our corruptible bodies, will become incorruptible. There will be no tears, no sickness, no war, no pain nor suffering.

We will all be rejoicing with your beloved Mom and your family in that golden mansion. We shall be looking back at our life here on earth and we shall see how God has led us and how good He provided and protected us despite of the things we believed and suffered for.

Take comfort that death on this earth is a gateway to a new life that is to come. A life living with our Lord God Jehovah in the eternity.

God bless you my friend, my brother. God bless your Mom. Her spirit is now back to her Creator. She will rest in peace.

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I am very much sorry for your loss. I can relate on what you feel because I also lost both my parents years ago.

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I lost my Dad to prostate cancer last year 2016, so I can understand.

I know how hard and deep the heartfelt pain can be.

Be strong my brother and think of the beautiful moments you shared with her.

Reminisce on her smile that comforted you right from childhood till now.

Appreciate God for being her son and pass on that love she evidently showed you, your siblings and others that knew her.

Let her departure be a reminder that you have to be a blessing to others as she was to you.

The future is tomorrow and all you can do is be an example of the good things she taught you.

Energy is never destroyed but transferred.

Live life and be glad that you passed through her.

May her gentle soul rest in peace.

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An intensely touching comment. Thank you for maintaining awesomeness in the midst of your pain. Stay awesome

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You are very strong ma of God. Note the word "ma of God". Is only God that can make you to be calm and still believing in this kind of situation. God is about to take you to another level of your life. Just watch out.
Mama lives on in our heart. My mother and mother in law send their condolences. They said you should know you have alot of mother that loves you here in Nigeria.
My wife sends her love as well. I told her about you and how you show love to everybody.

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Sorry about your loss. Jehovah will strengthen you. Stay awesome

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You too bro, it is well with us all.

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@surpassinggoogle my sincerest condolence..
i left you a PM in the chat but I guess you're too busy to get things sorted out there right now to read it so I decided to write here anyways..
am so sorry for your loss
stay strong!

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Oh Terry, this is so sad :(
I have been out of SteemWorld due to plenty of things at work. But I just have to log in and offer my deepest condolences and prayers.
I'm sure you are hurting. There is this pain that cannot be explained and a grief that can only be expressed through emotion.
I don't have any words that can soothe you -- but I am sure that you are one of the greatest miracles your Mom received in her life journey.
Again, my deepest condolence and prayers my Friend. Stay strong.

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Oh Terry... this is really breath-taking. I can't describe how sorry I am for your loss.

It's amazing that even in such moment of pain where you might be only focussing on yourself, your beloved ones and how to deal with the pain, you don't stop mentioning that you're here for us.

For humans and steemians, i am all in, for you all.

You're incredible, and I bet your mom knew that very well. May she rest in peace.

We're all here for you, too, Terry! Big hugs, Marly -

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it is very hard..

My heart goes out to you and your family for this great loss. Our steem mama just passed. @surpassinggoogle's mum is also our mum. Sorry you had to go through everything till your death ma. YOu suffered alot. And just now your son was creating something for the world to be better....you had to go mah. Why ma? I just know you should be in a better place.

Oh God give our brother the strenght to go through all this without crumbling. I already admire your strenght bro. Its not everyone that may be able to type a post at a time like this. SO SO SORRY Bro.

DO take heart! Includng your 3 sisters too. Hope they can be strong. ANd papa doesn;t even know yet? Nawao. Life is deep.

Accept my condolensces brov. EVerything will be alright!

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For some life can be extremely complicated. For now, i focus on the burial and hurting, then return to doing good towards humanity as she kept doing till she slept

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You need to rest bro. Take care of yourself. And heal the wound alittle before coming back. We will always be here waiting for you. Best wishes for you and family!

#Hug-Challenge!

I am so sad to hear about our loss. I could tell how much joy mumsy brought to everyone around. She'll be missed by many.

she practically walked all the way to Manila on a 24 hour flight by herself, without food or energy. She was coming to see her only son.

She loved like crazy she loved you and the rest of your family.
Cant imagine what you going thru right now . Just know that I am thinking about you and praying for comfort for you and your family.
Mama was such a shining light in so many people's life. We'll all miss her terribly.
I can't even begin to express how my heart aches for you. You'll be in my prayers. Mama legacy will live on through all the great work you doing here on steemit and beyond.

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Thank you. I pray to be able to speak of her love by means of by continous loving acts done on steemit

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Yes terry @surpassinggoogle ...we always stay with you...we pray for your lovely mama...

@surpassinggoogle Our deepest condolences brother. She is resting until the comming of our Lord Jesus.

1 Thessalonians 4:13
But we do not want you to be uninformed, brothers, about those who are asleep, that you may not grieve as others do who have no hope. For since we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so, through Jesus, God will bring with him those who have fallen asleep. For this we declare to you by a word from the Lord, that we who are alive, who are left until the coming of the Lord, will not precede those who have fallen asleep. For the Lord himself will descend from heaven with a cry of command, with the voice of an archangel, and with the sound of the trumpet of God. And the dead in Christ will rise first. Then we who are alive, who are left, will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air, and so we will always be with the Lord. Therefore encourage one another with these words.

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We see her in Paradise

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We surely do brother, we have faith in Christ, we have faith that what he said is true and we have faith that we will see each other there. To fullfill this verse.
1Corinthians 2:9
But as it is written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him.
He said, never been seen, hear or entered the heart. i belive seeing our loveones there, saved, in a place no more suffering and tears is one of the best experience he is promising us. This is only just a journey to teach us the value of life that by the little time we have here in this life, we feel suffering, disappointment loneliness, hurt, we still value this life, what more if its eternal life without suffer? we will be more greatfull. Dont worry bro @surpassinggoogle , everything will be fine, and todays loneliness will be a thing of the past as it will all be happines when that day comes.

You have been through a lot lately.

I have been doubting your existence for a long time now.

I told you this morning during our chat, how I felt about this heart breaking news. There's no worse feeling than losing somene who you truely love. My heart is filled with anger.

I needed to have alcohol before I could even read again this story of yours. I also wish this is a dream.

I know how steemit means a lot to you, so I am taking my time to write here. Just like you, I have been trying to be silent and we both know how life is so cruel.

It's okay if you haven't read my letter a few days ago. I understand that you had to take care of other stuff but I was real what I told you this morning. The flowers. I am really sorry.

You stay strong. I am your friend, remember? I am sorry you had to leave her alone this morning but you needed to. Right now, I wish I can fly there but it'll won't help me recover from everything that am still going through. I do not even really know what is happening. I do not even understand why this is happening. Why do you have to suffer so much. Why do we have to suffer anyways?

should I say it's better that she ended her suffering now, because that's what I thought when I heard about my aunt passed away, long time ago. This is really upsetting. Do others even really care? Why on earth are we even still here? What's the point really?

Am sorry, how you feel right now.

I have so much guilt in me, i wanted to talk to you but I was upset because I thought this isn't real. I don't even make sense..

See? When I get really emotional, I sometimes don't make sense or maybe most of the time.

I am upset beause you have been doing a lot for the Filipinos, but to be honest, a lot of them don't even bother to visit or read your blog. Did you know/ of course you know.

Can I be so pissed now? Can I swear at every human being I really hate right now or should I just keep balming myself and keep torturing myself?

How do I even manage to talk about this when you are in the process of grieving? It is really upsetting.

I want to cheer you up. How I can even do that, If have been grieving since I was younger?
How do we manage to stay breathing with all this?

When the world has been cruel with all of us and yet we still call it a happy place.

My words are all over the place now..

Don't you wish we can turn back time? but there is no turning back, Terry Never!

We all need a cry aren't we?

I have a really good life now but why am I still sutck in this grieving process?

I do not even know your mom... but I know her based on your sties and the stuff that you shared with me during our chats. I thought it would great to see you with her. You have everything planned for the near future...

but the future doesn't always belong to us...

When things are almost getting in place but then the next you'll wake up and its all shattered...

You told me to stay strong... Strong? Maybe tomorrow when I wake up I'll foget about all this... When you want to scream to the universe why do we have to feel the pain?

why grieving is so common?


Am sorry this is happening and is so sudden... am sorry if cannot be there ight now for I am not even well..

I am sorry life is really cheating... I am sorry if cannot even sugarcoat it because that is really happening...

I sorry if I have to feel really sorry... but I am really sorry for everything that you have been through....

Normal people won't feel the same...

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I FELT YOU. I ask and re-ask these questions a ton of times. Loving you. Stay awesome

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Did you neven get a tiny little tadpole answer? I guess not, right? So that's it? Life will always be like that, just like, that, move on? is that it?

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how do you even manage to stay calm?

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humans be like: keep fighting!..... yeah right!.... as if they have any clue!

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I am not calm. I just eat all the suffering up and pay for it with deterioration. I divert as much of it as i can into doing good stuff, again i pray for that with deterioration

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@purepinay, hugsss sis. its gonna be ok..
it's gonna be ok....xoxo

Oh No! I was unable to control my emotions for this lose, I couldn't control myself when I got notified about this by @greenrun. I burst into tears because I've been praying that God should please be in his mercy to save her for us.
But, we only wish as a human, only God knows the time and date, and it can never be change for anything.

FOR MAMA @surpassinggoogle

When you lose
someone you love,
life will change,
you rearrange,
and everything around you
seems so strange.

The world will spin
in the wrong direction.
You feel alone
and want affection.
Your appetite changes,
you may not sleep,
you don't feel like talking
to anyone you meet.

But as time goes on,
things will get better,
and everything
just comes together.

And just because you smile,
it doesn't mean you don't care,
because you know in your heart
that they will always be there.

For the life you lived
For the love you shared
Through your blood
That you transferred to us.

We can't never forget you mama in our mind
You will always live in our heart
Because we love you and we will always love you forever.

We love you mama but God loves you more.

Rest in peace mama!!! .
Be strong @surpassinggoogle Jehovah will be with you and send forth his love to console you... We love you 💋💋💋

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Thank you for the love bro

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Mula sa aking pag ka bata,
lagi mo akong niyakap-yakap
ang pag mamahal mo ang aking ramdam
sa bawat pag kilos koy lagi kang nandyan
naka bantay sa akin para ako'y gabayan

oh aking ina, mahal kung ina,
pag mamahal mo ay walang katulad
sa aking pag tulog ako ay iyong pinag mamasdan
habang ako ay nasa duyan,lagi kang naka abang

sa aking pag iyak dala mo'y gatas
at sa umaga naman puyat ka sa kakabantay sa akin

oh aking ina maraming salamat
sa lahat ng pag mamahal na iyong binigay na
walang kapalit.

salamat noung akoy musmos pa ay lagi kang
nakagaaapay para sa una kung pag lakad
sa tuwing ako'y nadadapa laging,
nandiyan ka para tumolong para ako'y makatayo muli.

salamat aking ina..
oh mahal kung ina
salamat sa lahat lahat ng pag
sakripisyo mo sa akin
salamat aking ina..

hayaan mo, ako naman
ang mag bibigay ng saya
tangapin mo ang aking
munting handog,
mula sa aking papasalamat ng walang humpay..

I LoVe you Po mama..

maraming maraming salamat po...

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Am so sorry for your loss. God brace your heart.

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Am so sorry for your loss. God brace your heart.

This might look sad and I cannot agree less because we all still want Mama with us but Jehovah knows better. It is a very sad day for us all but in all things we still had to give thanks to Jehovah. The bible says" in all things always give thanks". @surpassinggoogle (boy Terry Ajayi). My condolence to your entire family.
The joy in what has happen to Mama Ajayi is the fact that she is going to rest with the Lord in Heaven. She has done her part as far as the journey of this world is concern. At least she gave us Terry Ajayi and his 3 sisters. We are grateful for that.
We will all miss her but God loves her more. She is just resting in the Lord's blossom, because very soon we shall all see again and be together for eternity. That is the hope of every born again child of God..
Just know that it is well:
IT IS WELL
When peace, like a river, attendeth my way,
When sorrows like sea billows roll;
Whatever my lot, Thou hast taught me to say,
It is well, it is well with my soul.

Refrain:
It is well with my soul,
It is well, it is well with my soul.

Though Satan should buffet, though trials should come,
Let this blest assurance control,
That Christ hath regarded my helpless estate,
And hath shed His own blood for my soul.

My sin—oh, the bliss of this glorious thought!—
My sin, not in part but the whole,
Is nailed to the cross, and I bear it no more,
Praise the Lord, praise the Lord, O my soul!

For me, be it Christ, be it Christ hence to live:
If Jordan above me shall roll,
No pang shall be mine, for in death as in life
Thou wilt whisper Thy peace to my soul.

But, Lord, ’tis for Thee, for Thy coming we wait,
The sky, not the grave, is our goal;
Oh, trump of the angel! Oh, voice of the Lord!
Blessed hope, blessed rest of my soul!

And Lord, haste the day when the faith shall be sight,
The clouds be rolled back as a scroll;
The trump shall resound, and the Lord shall descend,
Even so, it is well with my soul.

It is well with your soul dear. May the Lord give you the heart to bear this lost. I love you and all that you represent.
May her gentle soul rest in peace.

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I am scrolling here to see some of my brothers in faith, and I am glad to find you. It shows how much @surpassinggoogle have done things not just for us brothers and sisters in faith, as well as the community. We all love @surpassinggoogle. May Jehovah God give him and his family strength and comfort.

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Yeah Brother. The only one that can give us eternal rest is God and He will perfect everything that concern @surpassinggoogle. Mama fought the goo fight of faith and that why I said it is not over becasue we shall all meet very soon. She is not dead, she is only sleeping.
Thank you @iyanpol for relating with my believe. Bro. Terry and his siblings will fulfill their mother's dreams and wishes.

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Thank you. She didn't deserve. She suffered all her life and the way she left was intense suffering, kinda brutal as it plays in my head and many of these things are avoidable in reality. Many of the things that happen are avoidable and unnecessay but many are unprivilege, especially the many of us in developing countries. Even in a fight for life, they tie our hands. It is cheating and we will adjust this a bit even using steem. This is so where i come in. I pray for life. A ton i will do make people smile and be able to fight like complete humans, not half humans. i wont talk much for now

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My God will watch over and you will fulfill destiny. That alone will give Mama joy in Heaven. God is mindful of you Boy Terry. Just know that you are not alone. i AM ONE THE PEOPLE THAT BELIEVES IN YOU. Keep bringing her dreams to fulfillment.

I am moved by your post because I remember how my own mum suffered for us which I will like to share in due course. Its painful that they usually die before you are able to say thank you. We take consolation from the fact they have gone to rest from all the hustling and burstling of life. May their gentle and humble souls rest in perfect peace. Amen.

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Amen. May we see them in Paradise to say these thank yous

I don't know what to say...
I was praying for you...
I know how to lose a parent
a loving parent
who's love for us are endless
I lost my dad this year, August
and that is the most painful, i want to die next
but I don't see it in you
What i see is a person who choose to be strong
to continue the legacy that his mother left for him
the person who wants to continue living
because he will be continue what life his mother gave to him
he will live because that is what his mother wants too
he will live because of his love for his mother

let us celebrate the life of your mother
for this is the start where I celebrate my father's love to me and to our family
this is what God is giving me, telling me that there are person that despite of the most painful pain they have, they still choose the right thing...
I admire your positivity and strength
Thank you God for giving that to you...
I will forever treasure this awareness and acceptance...

Condolence.
May this post serves as a warm hugs from me, my deepest condolences..
no message will lessen the weight but believe that one day we will all come back to smiling.

God bless you and I will still pray for strength, be strong!!

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Thank you for your love and effort in this comment

What a sad story ... at least you all could be there with your mother until the end and show her that you love her. I wish you much energy now to continue your life and achieve your goals.

Keep up the good work here on Steemit also, you are a precious user. How you are handling your delegated Steem power is very helpful for the platform - keep using it to support many small accounts, they will be happy and motivated because of your help. :)

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No doubt. i will keep up the good work. Steemgigs interface is in works and i also run a full rpc public node here: "wss://steemd.steemgigs.org" to keep on at doing more good

Oh Terry, I am so sorry!!! I really dont know what to say at this point and i doubt there is anything anyone can say to erase the hurt but i guess you can bear comfort in the fact that you are not alone in this.. We love you so much and we are grateful to your mum for having such a special son. Be comforted in the fact that she will always be with you and will always be proud of what you are doing.
i can only pray that the Spirit of God guides you through these rough times and strengthens you for your family and for us all... We very much with you Terry, please be strong...

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Thank you. We will do good and see her in paradise

Oh no!!!!!! Pls no!!!!! I did pray long life for her! I did prayed she lived even a little longer! Why?? Just why?? Death why are you so cruel?? Leaving the evil men to take our good!???? This life is juat nothing!!!!!! @surpassinggoogle, i dont know how to comfort you for now because even me i'm in a miserabke state after reading this news. Pls in everyting, just know Jehova knows best! I even still prayed for her in my latest post!!! Oh no! Who will comfort you? Who will comfort me? Who will comfort us?? Who will comfort steemit?? Who will even comfort this cruel world? We have truly lost a precious gem! God grant her eternal rest in paradise.

Sun re o, Iya Terry Ajayi!
Adieu mama!

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I am glad to see brothers in faith here on Steemit through @surpassinggoogle. Yeah, we all love Terry here, and hoping Jehovah God will comfort him.

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Amen. Jehovah will surely comfort him. @iyanpol. we are many here that believes in the existence of Jehovah. We are all possession our possessions.

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Switie, i will just stay speechless. She wasn't suppose to die. I won't lie. If you only new the entire context and all i saw, in these days, you will grasp. We will do good and love till satan grows some heart. We'll see her in Paradise. Let's stay loving

Oh No! I am so sorry for your loss! I have been down this road and I know whatever we or I say won't make much of a difference. You are the only one that could make that happen. But I know she is at PEACE. A perfect peace! Free from all the hustles and heartaches of this world. Be strong! Be strong BROTHER. Only remember the good times. It helps. It had helped me. I know this is going to be tough. Please accept my heartfelt sincere condolence. I, on behalf of all the steemians really wish you well and hope you come out from this strong. I won't say stronger because I do not want to lie. May the peace that passes all understanding be with you.

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Thank you bro. We'll see her in Paradise. Let's stay loving

Dear @surpassinggoogle
I wish i have the right words to comfort it at this point in your life. I feel so sad and heartbroken about your lose. God knows best why this has to happen this way. I am sorry you had to lose someone so important and special in your life. I’ll be praying for you and the rest of your family.
From what I have heard you talk about your mother, it seem like she was a great woman. She did an excellent job raising you. No one can replace your mom, but God can comfort your heart. He knows what you need during this time much better than anyone else.

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I am broken. Will love and stay awesome and see her in Paradise

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Dont worry my dear friend "Terry"...
Please be strong.... I think your mama very proud of about you....

Words fail me right now, as i do not know what to say or how to make your hurt go away.
A mother is totally irreplaceable. There's no one like a mother.
I wish life wasn't this way. I wish all the cheating would stop. I wish God gave us the opportunity to extend the lives of the loved ones we cherish so much.
I wish God gives us a little more time to spend with our loved ones.

My prayers today go out to you and your wonderful family.

May Jehovah Bless you all and comfort you.
May he give you the strength you'll need to pass through this very trying time!

May he be your divine comforter.

I know it hurts so much but I am deeply sorry for your loss.

We all prayed so much for her.

We loved her, but jehova loves her more.

RIP great mum, you'll be seriously missed and never forgotten by all steemians!

Amen!

@melanie00

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Everything reminds me of her and especially her face, how she agonized before she passed away

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Words cannot describe all our innermost feelings. Stay strong

hi Terry.
I shed a tears too. This is sad. Life is just a borrowed. Be strong , your mom will always be at your side. She live with God and happy place. She's watching over you and proud of all you have done. May your mom rest in peace! God bless you, Terry <3

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Thank you for those tears. We will see her in Paradise

My heart is hurting for you @surpassinggoogle and your family.
I know its extremely hard, but your mama is in no more pain. She is in heaven, and God is taking care of her now and she is in paradise watching over you. She is at peace and you did everything you could for her and she knows that.
When my grampa's heart stopped beating and he was brought back to life, he was so mad because he said he was in heaven, it was so peaceful and so wonderful.
I'm praying for your strength my friend and you got my witness vote.

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Really that's something new. Encouraging stuff though.

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Thanks for stopping by @joalvarez.
Thank you for your support,appreciate that.
Nice story about your grandapa:)
xoxo

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Thank you @sunnylife.
I don't even imagine how hard it is to lose your mother or someone really close to you but I really, really believe that when you go to be with God, it is so beautiful and so peaceful because of what my grandpa saw. I heard of so many simiar stories like this.

So sorry to hear you lost your mother. We've had a couple of deaths in the family recently and it tears you apart. I hope you have people to support you

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Thank you bro. Steemit helps as well. My sister just arrived now in Manila to be with me for a week

I know that no amount of words is enough to comfort you right now. I myself couldn't help but cry when I've learned about your mum's passing, because from what I've read, she is such a wonderful person. And if i were in your place, I wouldn't know what to do.

Your mum has such a beautiful heart and she is very proud of you. No one can ever replace her in this world. Just know that all my prayers goes to you and your family. She is now in a better place. God bless her soul. Stay strong Sir Terry! We love you so much!

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Love you too. Thank you for the love. So much. Stay awesome

Loneliness put me down when I lost my mom. When she passed away, I was still young. I was in my 2nd year in high school. Felt at sea, I did not know what to do with my life then. I lost the heart and soul to keep on studying. I gave up for two yrs. I found more heat than light from anything I did and had myself most in a life of solitude. Until one day, after two years, Almighty God Father Jehovah lifted me up with my brothers and sisters in faith. They introduced me to His words. The bible gave me the guidance I needed, and my life began to have positive directions.

The LORD himself will lead you and be with you. He will not fail you or abandon you, so do not lose courage or be afraid. (Deuteronomy 31:8)

My deepest condolences, Terry!

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thank you for sharing your experience. It is a huge learning process. Your experience helps me learn. Thank you alot. We will see these loved ones in Paradise. For we will have them leave on through us by means of our noble deeds. Jehovah will soothe us

My God! Sorry for this loss bro. I'm sure she is proud of you where she is right now. Alot has been said about how amazing she is and I am particularly excited that she didn't leave without a drop of her kindness and love into you. I consider her "suffering" to be her time of investing so much into you guys. See who you have become, a role model and epitome of love. She has invested, you are the seed, your impact here and beyond steemit are your fruits. We love her so much but it's our joy that she is sleeping and not dead. Stay strong bro.

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I so wanted her to stay even for a bit. I learned alot too. If passing away was to happen, gosh it should not be so brutal where someone's shine is completely taken away. She didnt deserve it and i watched, no ropes yet i couldn't stop it. Jehovah help us

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Bro. Terry, do you know you already been helped by God. Mama shine will always be with her because she lived a fulfilled life. In case you don't know, you are one of the reasonn she lived a fulfilled life. You cannot stop from doing all that you need to do now because that is where your lifting is.
Mama is always with you, all you need to do is to look in ward and fulfill purpose as you've always wanted to.
You are not alone.

I am so sorry for your loss. You are a special soul @surpassinggoogle. I have been following your journey here - I don't call you to my posts because others need your love more than I, but I cheer for you. You are doing the world some good in your way - and your mama raised you very well. Take your time if you need it. And keep strong if you can. And when you're ready - come back to steemit and we will embrace you with open arms.

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You know you are awesome.
Thank you for spotting amazing things about me and my mama and acknowledging and highlighting it here to inspire me in return. Thank you

I'm so so sorry for your loss:_(!
This is my first time on steemit and your Post was the first I've ever read on this platform...I still can't stop crying. Thank you so much for sharing with us! I send you and your family lots of hugs and comfort!

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Sorry about the tears. Thank you so much for letting yourself feel on my behalf. We will have beautiful times on steemit

Terry we are here for you, still praying... For your strenght, for your mother's soul, for your family.

Your mother lives, in you, in your siblings, in all your hearts.

Before you became our boy, you were. mama's. Here's a poem I wrote for my mama before she passed.

Kung iyong tanawi't magiliw sa aking
Magagarang damit na kapansinpansin
Huwag mong akalaing ako ay galak din
Mas gusto ko sana ang presko ng lampin

Mataas na gusaling pinapasukan ko
Sariling kong kuwarto, at gamit na bago
Mas ikasisiya ang lumang duyan ko
Kapag umugoy na, sabay sa awit mo

Apat at tatlumpo sa taong ding ito
Limang talampakan at pulgadang pito
Kay Sam at kay Lucy ama na rin ako
Sa aking gunita'y bata lamang ako

Ang aking likoran ay tapik-tapikin
Nang aking isipan ay mapahinga rin
Gamit ang yong damit luha ko'y pahirin
Tahan na anak ko ibulong sa akin

Bata lamang akong ngayo'y litong-hilo
Bakit ganun, bakit ganon ang laging tanong ko
Ano mang salita ang gamitin ninyo
Di maunawaan ng batang isip ko

Bata lamang ako, bata lamang ako

We go to see and comfort people we don't know. I understand you may want to keep this private, but if you are okay to let us know where we can help by being physically with you, we will come running. @dandalion messaged you in discord, and I might do the same this afternoon. Please just let us know, and we will be there.

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You did alot, you just done know how much yet but it will be told overtime. I am glad to see you and your wifey and all who came visiting and your envelope. I will do a special thank you and many more thanks over time. She was buried too. Stay awesome!

Mother is the most expensive being on earth. No one and nothing can fill the void created by the loss of our dear mother.
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight

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Mourning can go on for years and years.
It doesn’t end after a year, that’s a false fantasy.
It usually ends when people realize that they can live again,that they can concentrate their energies on their lives as a whole,and not on their hurt, and guilt and pain.

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I am so sad and had so many emotions that I lost words to type. Warm embrace for you, bro.
Had somebody told you that your mom inspire not just you but many people including me with what happened? My mom for sure would like to fight the way she fought and I, myself as a daughter would want to even more express my love and affection to my mom for I am lucky I still have her.

Moms are the best. They are selfless. They care for us more than they think about theirselves.
Mothers are true hero. 🙇‍♀️❤👸🇵🇭

Be bless and make her even more proud of you. You did well. Spread his undying legacy, my friend.

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This particular legacy will live on. Thank you for the warmth in your comment


A SHORT POEM FOR YOUR MAMA:UNDYING LOVE

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out of somethingness

came the big the bang

She was unvieled to the world

your Mama

A precious flower

spreading her scent all over the world

yet she loved so much

she was blessed with you

a part of her

you

the all of her

a star may die

but its light will travel years to the end of the infinite

and ever expanding universe

she is a star

you are her light

her reflection

full of selflessness

and true love

stars seen at nights are said to have died millions of years ago

yet they comfort our eyes at nights

I gazed out of my window

I can see a northern star

she maybe gone

but she is reborn in eternity

shining her light for us

through you

Find comfort in her light

she is always with you

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Be Strong


cheers

@dante31

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I'm always here for you... We understand each other you know that... We have similar situation... I wish, I could be with my mother. In any thing happen to her, I want to be with her...

I envious to you... You are with your mother untilt the last breath of her... How I wish to be with my mother too right now. Everyday when I was in the office and receiving a message from my Aunt about my mother, I always cry because I can't do something to make her smile... I can't do something to take care of her.

Sympathy for you brother...

@kennyroy (Kenneth Castro Divina)

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You will attain your desire to be with your mum. Build it up solidly in your mind then go for it

I'm so sorry for your loss, Terry. We will finish what we've started and dedicate this to your mom. I'm sure she will be so proud of you.

Please if you can go and read my post of today, I am so sorry for you but she will be free of all pain and never suffer again. She loved you all that is so obious from the pictures let her rest peacefully.

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Thank you. The whole context made it really really tougher. Jehovah heal us all in Jesus' name amen

Life is a journey

I share your grieve brother, i can only imagine how much you will miss mama, but you should try all your possible best not to be too down and not for long, LIFE have it's ups and downs, so does it have its gives and takes, grieve brother, it is normal, i have been down that road before and it felt like a halt in time, you should know that mama is resting now up there hoping that you get better and move on to explore, flourish and be happy.


I sympathise with you brother


Rest in peace mama

Am so sorry for your loss bruhhh...@surpassinggoogle may God give you the fortitude to bare the loss... 😢... Be strong....RIP MoMa

I m broke.....
My prayers with you and your family to bear this loss...

Mother is always a mother....the love is unparallel....

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Omg!!!....this is soo sad....sorry man...really sorry!!...take heart😯....sincere greetings from Nigeria

So sad, but i don't agree to share this kind of things in this place.
Should be private things, and not public.. atleast with declined payout.
Sorry about your loss.

@surpassinggoogle
i feel your inner pain and am so sorry for your great loss. God will console your family on this great loss. voting for your witness asap...
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O Loving Father and Savior, send your angels to carry the soul of your servant from this earth to the heavenly place of eternal and everlasting life. Forgive any wrongs that she committed and welcome this beloved spirit into the warm embrace of your unending peace as I pray for her eternal rest in glory. Amen.

May her gentle soul rest in the bosom of the lord!

Dear @suppassinggoogle, i am sorry to hear about your mom. CONDOLENCE; JEHOVAH is with her, i believe. I see that you are a good son who loves a mother unconditionally. I pray may God bless your hands to work in prosperity. You have got a lot of friends and we here with you. I have resteem your post so that all my friends would be inspired by your story that we need to love our mother faithfully.
Stay strong and God bless Jehovah is with you. Amen!

your friend
@sorenkierkegaaard

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Thank you much. Jehovah bless you too

It's a sad news @surpassinggoogle .May her soul Rest In Peace in the Heaven and May you be strong enough to bear this bitter fact of her departure. She must be a great lady I believe as she was a mother of a son like you .Her departure is towards Eternity and we all would be there one day and meet our loved ones there sooner or later .May you be blessed with patience and strength so that you continue your noble cause of making this world a better place ( full of Humanity ).

Terry, after reading the post I was just speechless for minutes. I did not know what to say. I'm not sure if I know what to say now too. But one thing I know is that you are a Bible student and she was too.

Terry be strong for her. This is just one of the signs of the last days. Jehovah knows best. I'm really sorry for your loss, you are like a brother to me. Terry I wish to express my condolence to your family. Terry please do things that will make her proud.

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Thank you. We stay awesome ad see her in Paradise

Terry 😭😭☹️ I am so so sorry for your lost. My deepest condolences to you and your whole family. ☹️ I cannot phathom the pain that you are suffering from right now. Our good God please heal Terry's heart. ☹️

I will continue this fight by loving like crazy. I will not turn cruel. I will love like crazy because even as she was losing life, she was loving like crazy.
-Yes please do so. Your mom will be proud of you for sure. She is watching over you. She is your angel now..

No , no no.
I'm really devastated reading this,
It hurts me in the most deep in my soul, that this happening to you. A great and noble boy. It's not fair.
I will cry from a distance, accompany your sad soul. I love you good boy.

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I love you too sweety. Lemme stop at that

There's nothing sad than like loosing a parent or both, no matter what condolence messages I write up here, its not bringing her back to life but I hope it brings you @surpassinggoogle back to a very high steem power and move on with life. Take Heart Bro

I’m so sorry. I know the pain this brings to your life. Be strong and thrive in life to make her proud.

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She is alive still by means of us. Will do good towards humanity, to keep her shine

My condolences to your family. Reading your posts i can tell she was a beautiful person and a beautiful soul. Stay strong!

I have no words. I am very sorry for your loss, Terry. This broke my heart real bad. I am at a loss for adequate words to express my sadness for you. You are a reflection of your mom in the way your treat people with respect and empathy. Not to mention the way you make each person feel loved. Sending prayers for you and your family.

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Thank you very much. You fixed me a bit.

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Don't mention it, Terry. Geez, I am a so sensitive and I am crying infront of my laptop right now. Pease, you need you at this very moment. You are a beautiful soul and the whole Steemit family is here for you. Right now, it's you and your mom that matters. Stay stronger!

I am sorry for your loss sir,stay strong she may rest in peace now, I also sincerely pray that the Almighty may take her into His care and keep her safe, into a place where there is no more suffering and no more pain. Stay strong, I'm sure she will be hurt seeing you and your siblings suffer over her death. Please find peace in the fact that she is now in a better place.

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Thanks for the kind words.

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Thank You For Reply @jamesanity06

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Thank you. We'll see her in Paradise

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No need to thank me sir, after all, the only thing I can offer you are words of comfort and encouragement. But I also know that no words of comfort can quench the pain you and your family is experiencing right now, may the Almighty heal your wounded heart and learn to let go of your mother, so she can peacefully rest in her rightful place in the presence of the Almighty.

Tears rolling down my cheeks asi read through this post. I feel your pain @surpassinggoogle. God will be with the rest family.

@bob-elr.

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Thank you for giving way to those tears. Keep your human. Stay human. Jesus still gave way to tears before resurrecting Lazurus

Stay strong and never give up. Death is one thing no one can defeat :(
My world collapsed when my grandma died and the following years i nerly gave up. It was hard. Probably the hardest thing in my life.

Keep her in your heart and soul and find your way to cope with it.
I wish you the best.

I just found out about your mama..
I am so sorry to hear that. hope you and family get fortitude in this accident.

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This post is so moving, gazing at the photo tears began to stream from my eyes as my Mom is gone too.

Then I remember witnessing this scene over and over for many years working in the hospital.

It is never easy. Blessings to you and your lovely family, what a wonderful son you are and in some ways we are more connected by you sharing your pain and the passing of your Mum.

She is FREE now of all the pain and limitations of her body and will always be with you and your sisters. She will always be a part of you and you will soon come to know this even stronger as time passes.

When my Mom passed I was afraid I would forget her. No way we are even closer as time passes.

If you do happen to read this know I am sending you and your family loving energy today. 🙏

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I am reading it. I felt everyword. See even her lifeless body consoled me. I didn't know that will be the case but i spent time there after she passed and held her and i got a measure of healing. There is nothing about her i want to forget

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We are all connected even you and I, now with her passing she holds us all together.
This post is so incredible together you and your mother are opening hearts.
Feel the love @surpassinggoogle it is here now in this moment. ❤️

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I so know

Oh No! I am truly sad & sorry to hear of the loss of your mum. may our prayers help comfort him, please accept my condolences and may god give him eternal rest and the family the strength to bear the great pain, Mother is the most expensive being on earth. No one and nothing can fill the void created by the loss of mother, may her soul rest in peace, I believe that God will accept her with open arms for all the good she has done while she was on this earth. Stay strong my friend.

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Sending all the love your way. Be strong. She'll be watching over you from above. Smiling down and admiring the man she raised. #onelove

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A loveable comment with loving intention

I know that there are not enough words to entertain you right now. I myself can not help but cry when I know about your mother's departure, because from what I read, she is a wonderful person. And if I'm at your place, I do not know what to do.
hopefully your mother calm down in nature there.

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Stay awesome. Thank you for the tears you let go on my behalf. Jehovah will reward it. No waste

Words seem inadequate to express the sadness we feel about your mom's death. We are here to support you in your grieving process. With sincere sympathy. May you be comforted by the outpouring of love surrounding you.

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Thank you for the love you surround me with

I am sorry, Terry. My condolences. She left us for a better world where hatred, fear, pain and suffering do not exist.

Sincere condoleances, i also lost my own mom two years and a few month ago now and guess what... This is exactly what i feared the most in my life. This is the most tragic thing that can happen in your life, according to me. So i just wanted to share a few of my compassion with you. Take care and courage ! Your mom seemed to be really a remarkable person. I believe for myself that my mom is not dead and forever always there in my heart, but she's also always everywhere and also in my mind. that help me to reduce the pain not seeing her anymore...

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Thank you for sharing your experience and using it to inspire. It was tough i won't like. Her death involve agony and suffering and that makes all the more tough but a learning experience too as somehow, i do prefer that death happens easy in general, so that some dignity is maintained. Seriously, if my mum had tha; "dignity", i may handle the trauma and aftermath much better

Nakakalungkot😭 Be strong po . sir terry, may your precious and loving mama rest in peace. may lord guide him in heaven... I know your mama is happy because you still spread positivity and love.... condolence po. 😢

What a sad post. I pray that God may give you and all your family the strength to go through this difficult time. Remember all the good memories and times you had with your mum. Always cherish and practice the values you learned from her. Atleast she is free from the pain of the disease,God will keep her till you meet again. Take heart and be strong for your sisters.

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Thank you for the warm encouragement

I'm so very sorry for your loss @surpassinggoogle . I really feel you, it is not easy if you lost your precious mother because way back in 2013 I lost my mother also. Please accept my sincere Condolenses. All I can say is eventhough it is very hard but we must accept that reality. I support you my friend. I owe you a lot here in steemit.

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Thank you bro. There is still a long way to go and alot we will do on behalf of each other

Till we meet again, sleep well mam. @surpassinggoogle sorry for the lost.

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I did something u might want to see on my blog.

May God give you the strength to bear this loss..

My condolences my friend - it is hard I know exactly how you feel. No good in commenting on such sad happenings - if you need me for anything, hit me via Facebook. Be strong!

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Thank you bro