Fantastic Freeloaders & How To Avoid Them

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Hey my fellow Jessebels

If there's one thing that people love to disagree about then its money, who should get what, how much should they get, how much should they be taxed, how much should they save, how much should they spend. Everyone has their own opinion about money and passions are ignited when it comes to talking about it.

In today's fiat system money determines so much of how we see the world, behave and interact with one another. There are so many topics we can go into regarding money but I wanted to touch on freeloading for a bit, while it doesn't really irk me and to each their own, I just find it strange and wanted to know what the rationale behind that kind of thinking is like.

While I don't have much experience with freeloaders, to be honest, I have had a few experiences in recent years, but since they got nothing out of me I see them more as time wasters than freeloaders.

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They come in all shapes and forms

Freeloaders can come into your life in the shape of family, friends, partners, colleagues or a potential customer for your business. They're usually looking for favours, handouts, discounts, advice or a donation that has to have no obligations or conditions and if you were to haggle or confront them on it, the reaction is often aggressive, dismissive or some sort of manipulative tactic.

I'm all for spending your time and money wisely for sure, I just don't understand why people are so hell-bent on trying to extract things for free from others at times. Especially when its the type of person who is less likely to offer up their time or services to you should the situation be reversed, its always a 1000 excuses.

Is it some kind of way of getting a one up on people? Like oh, I managed to get this without having to work for it? Seems a bit counter-intuitive to me. The people I'd be most likely to offer discounts, be willing to do favours for are those who have been upfront, we've developed a relationship based on battering, this could be through money or favours and as we trade we both benefit from one another.

Yet I constantly see people trying to sort of "game" one another out of things for whatever motivations they may have. Freeloaders don't build relationships they try to use people to their benefit, they clearly don't see the person but more of a target.

You can often pick up when peoples intentions are pure and direct and they really need your help as opposed to I want something from you because I feel I should get it. Freeloaders often have quite a sense of entitlement.

I personally like to cut the bullshit when I engage with someone and set the terms of any sort of agreement to make sure everyone knows where they stand and what's expected of all parties involved. If we cannot agree on terms, I'm happy to walk away, I'm not saying I'm always trying to benefit from situations but more mitigating any downside.

That same time and effort could have been used for something more constructive.

Have your say

How do you deal with freeloaders?

  • Call them on their bullshit
  • Let them know that you won’t let them freeload
  • Become a freeloader too and play an eye for an eye with them
  • Be the bigger person and walk away

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So have at it my Jessies! If you don't have something to comment, simply comment "I am a Jessie."

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The worst freeloaders are those who pretend not to be freeloaders and manipulate your trust to get what they want eventually. Gotta stay vigilant for them day and night.

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Oh 100% while I feel I can spot most of them I do agree there are some who have turned it into a profession and you can never tell their true intentions

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We call those people sociopaths lol. I have a family member engaged to one and it’s awful dude, the things this person tries to do to benefit themself are infuriating. My wife suggested I start to write about it here lol I bet I could get so many views from it, you’d be shocked. Not sure if I am at the level of putting it on the blockchain yet tho.

This person only does things that benefit them and won’t show up to something otherwise. Whenever I see them they bring only a small pizza for themself, and won’t even give a piece to their fiancée!

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Lol I didn't want to say it but yes I think they are pretty much psychotic, there reasoning doesn't make any sense to me. well you could just formulate a character and write about the Adventures of Frank The Freeloader and use the situations written in a satirical way

I'd love to read it, judging by just that one incident this person sounds like a riot.

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Hahah nice that sounds like a great name, I might use that

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Change the name and you can easily write some posts from your real life experiences.

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